With Fathers Day looming

It's that time of the year again only this year my heart is in a whole different place. I've come to realise although Aiden's bio dad is nothing to brag about we have some pretty awesome men in our lives. My dad, who is probably the best grandpa I've ever seen. My crazy ass brother who will be the cool uncle I won't let my kid go out with after a certain age and then the man in my life, our life, who treats my boy as his own.

I have been trying to find ways to show my gratitude to Bradley on Fathers Day but without the blatantly "daddy" things as I'm not quite sure where and when that will be acceptable. We learning here daily, baby steps. Along my research I found these cards, they not particularly what I was looking for but they funny.

Happy Fathers day to all the great men who raise their children, all the miracle men who help raise other mens children and to all the single mommy's doing it alone, it's your day too!

A little time away

Any relationship is hard, its takes tons of work and patience and compromise. Being in a relationship with a toddler is a whole other ball game. Your relationship kinda skips that whole puppy love aspect as time is min and there's this little person jumping in between kisses and romantic words.

We try have one date night a week and every second weekend an entire night off from being with A, we do get time in between that but with life being so busy we haven't lately.

I randomly said that we need to get away even if it's for 2 nights, we need that time alone. Only to realise we hadn't in 6 months spent 2 nights alone together.

And so we went away, for 2 nights, to the quaint little Nullarbor Cottages in Magaliesburg.

It was a silent heaven.

And the perfect time to reconnect.

In our backyard (almost) - Rietvlei Farm

Lately we've gotten into quite a rut, we became hermits for a while and weren't getting out the house at all. Thus making us all a tad insane and making the toddler extremely uncontrollable. It's hard to find things to do and places to go that are kid friendly and affordable. And when I say kid friendly I mean an environment where the kids can play freely and I can watch them from a distance.

Now I have lived in Alberton my whole life and I always tend to venture out when we plan something to do because well it's the South, what exactly is there to do here. Low and behold, there is a gem of a place literally down the road from me and if you venture past the front section there is a little kiddies heaven. (No I never knew this place existed) I have always taken my car to get washed there and then stop at the very open restaurant, which is like sitting in your garden with a waiter.

A little while ago we went a little further and found what Rietvlei Farm is really all about. For R25 for adults and R12 for kids you step into a huge farm with a Petting Zoo, picnic facilities, braai facilities, lapa's to rent for birthday parties, train rides, pony rides, tractor rides, there's even a Spa! The list goes on and on.

It's our new favourite spot.

And my new mission to find things to do closer to home.

And the winners are...

I always try make this as random as humanly possible. So I've opened up a new post and will type the first 5 numbers that come to my head between 1 & 11 and then check who the lucky winners of the Babygroup vouchers are.

So the lucky numbers are:

6
9
2
11
7

And those winners would be....

DeMonique
Remember When
Kash
Brigitta Nel
Sindi

Please will the winners email me at jmckaydesigns@gmail.com with your contact info and I can get your vouchers to you ASAP.

When life is good

Life changes all the time and it's finally changed in a good way, a great way. With picnics, and bird parks and playing soccer outside after school. With work flying in and a future being built. Less tears and more smiles. Life is good. It's the little things that make it so wonderful.

I have something for you

I love shopping, I especially love shopping for Aiden. Only recently have I found the joy in online shopping and I can say it can quickly turn to a nasty habit but it's so easy and you can find exactly what you looking for with a click of a button.

Baby Group is a online portal that offers exclusive products that aren’t available anywhere else in our country as well as insightful advice and support from the BabyGroup panel of experts. You can also find them on Facebook so give them a like if you have a chance.

This is a sponsered post but I received nothing for it but I did get five R50 vouchers for my readers. I honestly love this site, it's clean and easy to use and the products they have in their shop are wonderful.

Leave a comment and the five lucky readers will be announced on Wednesday 6 June.

Here are some things I would love to get my hands on:

Freddie the Frog Silicone Bib

Sparky the Schnauzer Night Light

Blossom Bashful Bunny

This camper cot is only R795, wish I had seen this before I bought Aiden's one

Amber Teething Necklace

Love this clip on feeding chair

Stack & Spray fountain

Why I am so tired

I constantly get bombarded with "why you so tired" "why are you so grumpy" "why don't you ever go out" why why why why why...

Here's why:

5:30/6:00am Aiden wakes up, put him in bed with the TV on hoping to get an extra 30 minutes sleep
6:10am Aiden wants tea, I get out of my warm bed to make tea
6:20am Aiden is now bored and wants my full attention
- Change nappy
- Put him in today's outfit (This is a war and a game of catch the child)
- Pack school bag
- Get my self dressed and looking vaguely decent
(Doing all this with a whinny, naggy child holding onto my leg)
7:30am Take Aiden to school (This includes getting him out the house and again playing catch the child while he runs around the car laughing his ass off)
8:00am Home from drop off
8:01am Coffee
8:30am - 4:30pm work, work, work and do all necessary chores
4.30pm Go to the shop to buy food for supper
4:45pm Fetch Aiden from school
5pm - 6pm Play with Aiden outside and cook, this is a juggling act between everyone in the house and a game of tag on who gets Aiden.
By 6pm Aiden is in suicide hour mood and I am ready to jump off closest cliff
6pm Feed Aiden supper and myself (This ends in food all over the kitchen, all over me and all over Aiden as well as a game of begging Aiden to at least eat one spoon of food and resulting in me eating cold food or very little food.
6:30pm Bath time, yay, no not yay, Aiden loves to bath, my back does not love bathing Aiden.
6:45pm Dress Aiden (Another round of catch the child but this time a screaming child)
7pm Tea time
7-730pm nicest time as he cuddles and watches TV with us
7:30pm Bed Time (Favourite time of the day)
But no it's not over for me, I get to have a bath and wind down and get into my warm bed for some sleep as I close my eyes, Aiden's eyes open, and they repeatedly open all night resulting in me never having a good night sleep like all you people you want to ask me why I am so tired and then after not sleeping at 5:30am Aiden wakes up again.

And this here is a good day, because it's a work day, on weekends its 48 hours of a child who is currently in the worst phase I have encountered yet  and then you have to include breakfast, lunch, snacks, nap times (he doesnt like those), all day play time and all day temper tantrums..

So now you know, so now you can keep you silly questions to yourself.

Between the madness

Sometimes you just have to come to accept that life is just crazy, things are going to continuously go wrong, life is manic, it has it's downs but then it has it's ups and in between the madness is where you find the sweet joys of life and it's where happiness can be found.

Aiden is in a terrible phase right now, he is pushing boundaries to the fullest and he is quite literally driving me insane. He smacks and throws tantrums, he says "NO" to almost every request, he throws food and climbs on the most dangerous devices. He grabs things out your hand and throws things at your head. He is deviant. He has a temper. He is stubborn. He is exactly like me.

Along with this phase, he is talking so well, words are just flying out his mouth and he is trying to build sentences and it warms my heart. He is starting to really love you back, he gives the biggest hugs especially if he sees me crying. His eyes light up when someone wants to play ball with him and he races around on his little black bike for hours. Every morning when I walk into his room he is smiling at me and looks at me with so much joy. He is the light in my life.

My custody issues are far from over. It causes me a great deal of stress and heart ache. It's like running in the same dark, scary circle over and over again and all you do is keep ending up at the beginning again and it never ends. And with all that we have heard yet another handful of promises of visits and financial help just for it to fall away again, not that I ever believed it to be true just find it fascinating how one would waste their breath on so many lies.

I have a great man in my life, in our lives, he loves us both, and he is helpful and encouraging and supportive. He makes me laugh and he makes Aiden laugh and he always talks about our future. He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world and he's taken to Aiden like you can't believe. He's always there lifting me up when I'm ready to give up and always ready to help with small mundane tasks when he sees I'm exhausted. I am really one lucky girl.

Work is drowning us at the moment, but that is only a good sign, our business is blossoming and I couldn't be more proud of how far we have come in the last year. We have been truly blessed with enough work to make sure we are comfortable and besides from a week here and there where the occasionally "having a child" is extra expensive we are doing really well.

We are super busy at the moment and don't have a minute to spare and for a while our lives have just consisted of work and cuddles in bed. And I am loving every minute of it.

Photoshoot by Butterfly Fantasies

I am a happy snapper, I always take tons and tons of photo's. I am the friend people ask to snap away at their kids birthday parties and I even take photo's at all my own events, being the one behind the camera means I never get nice photo's of myself and especially with my beautiful boy. So much so people have commented how they don't think I raise Aiden as much as my sister does (oh the anger with that one). That's why when Tanya Holmes from Butterfly Fantasies offered Aiden and I a shoot I jumped at the opportunity. I love how they all so natural and not so posy and she even made me a slide show with all the best shots to my choice of song "Your Song- Elton John" that I dedicated to Aiden when he was born. Here are a few of my favourites.