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BIRTH ORDER OF CHILDREN

1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your doctor confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.

Preparing for the Birth:

1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don't bother because you remember that last time breathing didn't do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your eighth month.

The Layette:

1st baby: You pre-wash newborn's clothes, color coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?

Worries:

1st baby: At the first sign of distress--a whimper, a frown--you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your three-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.

Dummy:

1st baby: If the dummy falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.
2nd baby: When the dummy falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.

Nappies:

1st baby: You change your baby's nappy every hour, whether they need it or not.
2nd baby: You change their nappy every two to three hours, if needed.
3rd baby: You try to change their nappy before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.

Activities:

1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.

Going Out:

1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home five times.
2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.

At Home:

1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.

Swallowing Coins:

1st child: When first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays.
2nd child: When second child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for the coin to pass.
3rd child: When third child swallows a coin, you deduct it from his pocket money.

Pass this on to everyone you know who has children. . . Or everyone who KNOWS someone
who has had children .
(The older the mother, the funnier this is!)

GRANDCHILDREN:
GOD's reward for allowing your children to live!

Things you should never say to a single mom

I often avoid talking about my situation by all costs because people are bound to say every sentence that makes me sick to my stomach and if not nauseous, it either hurts or leaves me feeling inadequate. Maybe lots are meant with good intentions but I am baffled that so many people don't think before they speak.

1. Where's the dad? Does he pay? Is he involved?
It's always first on the list, it's often six quick questions in succession that people expect you to explain not thinking this might be a touchy subject or something that's personal that I don't feel like explaining to every stranger I meet. In time I will tell people about it but in general, no I don't want to talk about it, he's an ass, who cares where he is.

2. I don't know how you do it? (with a look of utter pity on your face)
I do it just like you do it, now if you said this without the pity face it probably wouldn't irritate me so much because I don't need pity, I need HELP people.

3. You look so exhausted, it's because you alone/it's because you never get 'you' time.
This is probably something you shouldn't tell any mother, we know we look tired but reminding me I'm alone is just plan mean and don't tell me I need 'me' time, offer to babysit.

4. Don't worry you will find somebody to love you again?
This baffles me, I mean really, I'm a mother not a leper, I have a kid not a demonic plague.

5. My partner/husband works late/travels a lot, I know how you feel?
5.5 My partner/husband doesn't help much, I'm basically a single mom.
5.6 There's no difference between a single mom and married mom.
No, no you don't and no you not. One nappy change, one bottle made and one pee alone that your man gives you, is one more than a single mom ever gets. Doing it alone every day, all day, without a minute of someone helping you cannot be compared to a day your husband worked late or a few days he went away for travel. Oh and it has a lot more to do with emotional support and sharing an experience than the physical aspects.

6. Men that rape and beat woman are products of a single-mom home!
What the actual f*ck, I'm not even going to sit and explain why this shouldn't be said because if you don't get it then I would actually prefer it if you just don't talk to me all together.

7. Why didn't you get an abortion?
Another one that I just don't get, especially when people say it in front of my beautiful boy.

8. Did you not think of adoption?
Don't you think I'm doing a good job.

9. If more woman fought for maintenance less men would leave/it would make a difference/they shouldn't complain if the don't fight.
Honestly if you haven't been in the situation you have absolutely no idea the war we fight on the inside every day wondering what is the right decision for our child. We can complain because a human being shouldn't abandon their child, it won't make a difference because men leave the responsibility and it is rather easy to work your way around maintenance court and because some of us are not ready just yet to start yet another war in our lives.

10. I feel so sorry for your child.
Don't, he's fine, he will be fine, he has a loving family, I'm a good mom.

A Tear to shed

A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?" "Because I'm a woman," she told him.

"I don't understand," he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will."

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason," was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked,

"God, why do women cry so easily?"

God said, "When I made the woman she had to be special.

I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining.

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed."

"You see my son," said God, "the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart the

place where love resides."

Tempting

Meaning behind the name

I have had a lot of people ask me why 'From there to hear' and not 'From there to here'.

It was originally going to be 'From there to here' and I thought to myself, I don't want to be stuck with another name that doesn't move with me.

Because where is "here"

Yes, I've grown a lot from when I started this journey and I am in a much happier place now than I was in the beginning but life changes all the time, we change and things move on.

I still have so much more I want to achieve and do and A and I have an amazing journey still to come.

"Here" was to permanent for me, it wasn't a word that I relate to a journey more of a destination.

That's where "hear" comes from, it was a simply play on words with it being a blog and you my readers hearing my story and me telling it.

To me it stands for where I am now and what I have to say and how I feel at a particular moment, and I'll probably feel, be and want completely different things in a year or two from now.

Love me or Hate me

I'm here, it's open and it's public, not everyone will agree with me and that's okay. I am good at brushing this off and moving on and I am not one who is big on others opinions any ways, however last week I was personally attacked and accused of abusing A and neglecting him because of my Bad Mommy Moments post, it got to me for a whole 24 hours and then I sat back and laughed my ass off because the accusation was and is ridiculous!

I was going to respond and explain myself and then thought screw it, for a crazy moment thought maybe I am too honest here on my little blog and realised what the hell am I going to talk about if not the truth, and then I realised it doesn't matter.

Thank you for all the support and lovely people who sent me words of encouragement and laughter.

The lovely Chantel over at Toppie se Vrou did a post, Dear Beverley.

Oh and the notorious Pickles at A Bullet Laced with Anger wrote this extraordinary piece and sent it to me on the day, From there to hear, my notoriety and more.

Lost for words

This week has been a rough one, with mean words and attacks from all angles in my life, it's all still to jumbled in my head to write about and I'm still a bit bruised from certain aspects of it. Life changes to quickly, I would love some stability, some redundancy but we don't all get what we wish for. So I am leaving you with some words of others and trying to stay positive.

 

Love it

How I feel today

Bad Humour - I know

Father: “When you go back to your Mom’s tonight, give her this envelope. Tell her that since you are now 18 this is the LAST check she’ll ever see from me for child support. Then, stand back and watch the expression on her face.”

Daughter: “OK.”

Later….

Daughter: “Mom, Dad asked me to give you this envelope. He said to tell you that since I’m now 18 this is the LAST child support payment he’ll ever have to make to you. Now I’m supposed to stand back and watch the expression on your face.”

Mother: “Next time you visit your father tell him that after 18 years I have decided to inform him that he’s not your father. Then, stand back and watch the expression on HIS face.

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The little boy greeted his grandmother with a hug and said,
“I’m so happy to see you grandma. Now maybe Daddy will do the trick he has been promising us.”

The grandmother was curious. “What trick is that my dear?” she asked.

The little boy replied, “I heard Daddy tell mommy that he would climb the fucking walls if you came to visit us again.”

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Once there was this family of Storks, the momma stork the daddy stork and the little baby stork.

One night the daddy stork leaves and doesn’t come back till late the next morning. The baby stork very curious askes the father where he was. The father told the son he was making a young couple very happy.

A few months later the mother stork leaves and again doesn’t come back till late the next morning. The baby still curious asks his mother where she was all night! The mother tells the baby she was out making a young couple very happy.

A few months pass and after dinner the baby stork announces that he’ll be “right back.” Well he doesn’t return to late the next morning. The parents frantic with worry ask him where he was.To which he says, Out scaring the shit out of some college couple!

Happiness